Thursday, November 22, 2012

PROFESSIONAL WOMEN LIFE CHALLENGES/ ESTABLISHING PRIORITIES


Monthly meeting for (HPWA) Hispanic Professional Women Association in Florida.

         Good morning! My name is Maria Rodriguez and I am currently a Professor as well as the Assistant to the Director of Faculty and Curriculum at Ana G. Mendez University System. This is an institution dedicated to educate with excellence in a Dual Immersion Program teaching both in English and Spanish. You can tell this is my passion.
     I am delighted to be here today and share my experiences with you. I am originally from Puerto Rico and have lived in Tampa for 20 years. I have a Master in Business Administration with a Certification in Human Resources, and I teach all Management and HR courses. Since this is not going to be a lecture but a life experience testimony, please write down any questions or comments you may have for a Q&A session we will have once I finish my talk.   

        The topic for today is Professional Women Life Challenges/Establishing Priorities.
         
          Let’s define what a challenge is. We want to understand what the meaning of this is before decipher and act on it. The best definition for the word is “a call to engage in a contest”. There are challenges if you think they are there, they are not challenges if you work without thinking about them.
          I want to talk about my experience as a Hispanic woman and how different situations I’ve endured through my life have changed my way of thinking.  Sharing these experiences I feel will help you to relate to many stories you know of other women that have accomplished something big in their lives. For example starting and operating their own businesses. Who here is that entrepreneur? Great!  I believe you can be whatever you want to be in life, if you really want to.  Who here is a professional woman? Applause please!
          It takes a decision, courage, self determination and perseverance to accomplish goals.  You also have to be realistic and sacrifice if that is what it takes to get to where you want to be. You may think wow! Maria is a go getter.  Yes you are right, I am now, but that was not the case 11 years ago. I developed this as a skill, as I tried to survive and support my family when I became a widow exactly 11 years ago. I had to retrain my brain, and change my attitude, like any woman can. There is hope. I have to say that there is a Supreme Power that also keeps me going every day. That is God. Without Him I would not be here standing and talking to you today.
          Let’s take a look at some of those so called challenges that society has imposed to women which may make a difference in the way they grow and behave in the business community compare to men.
          One is the so called male dominant industries.
          Let’ take a look at the Military, the Mine industry and the Trucking Companies. Decades ago there was no possibility for a woman to fly a fighter jet, or for a woman to be a coal miner, or a woman to drive an 18 wheeler truck. That started to change as women started to realize that they were not only created to be a housewife, cook and have children. During WW II, and when industries were short of manpower men had gone to war, women substituted them and did perform well if not better than men.
          Women were needed to fill many traditionally male jobs and roles during the war and various advertisements were used to encourage and empower women to take on these duties. This was a big awakening for the predominantly male workforce.


         

Another challenge women face is companies or businesses with the gender specific jobs. Women have achieved a lot in the workforce over the past century, but we’re still a long way from reaching equality. Men occupy the vast majority of leadership positions – in both the private and public sectors – and, at nearly every step on the career ladder, they get paid more too.



  
           Gender stereotyping in the workplace often leads to discrimination. Gender discrimination has many severe consequences ranging from unequal pay for women for equal work, to the lack of promotions, to sexual harassment. These negative effects are still very prevalent in the workplace despite the many laws that have been implemented to prevent the discriminatory effects of gender stereotyping, and despite the court system that is supposed to uphold those laws. Accordingly, other measures need to take place in order to rectify the problem.

           Family, (demand from husbands, children and elderly parents)
          At home, things are also changing. Men are taking more responsibility for cooking; cleaning and child care, but many women still do more than their fair share. Back in the 50’s and 60’s most women stayed home and raised their children. That is no longer the case. More and more women go to college and beyond, and enter the workforce to support their families whether they are married or not.  They try to accomplish their professional goals and move up in their career ladder as well as to balance work and life, which is something men are starting to understand and accept.
          In addition, there are women that once they reach 45 years or older, start to see how our elder family members pass away or we encounter the situation of having to be the caregiver for our elderly parents. Some go through the decision on where their parents are going to live and deal with the so common Alzheimer’s disease or any other type of dementia. I tried to be my mother’s caregiver for 35 days. She has vascular dementia and when we moved her here from Puerto Rico, she did not know day from night, so I did not sleep for those 35 nights and ended having to make the decision of taking her to an Assisted Living Facility. Thank God she is stable but the disease progresses every day.
          Stereotyping us as:
1.     The weak sex,
2.     lack of confidence,
3.     too emotional,
4.     physical appearance/not taken seriously,  
5.     we put lifestyle first rather than business,
6.     don’t know how to generate constant new business,
7.     Glass ceiling.

          How can we overcome these challenges?
          Again I will say that if you encounter challenges and they are there, work around them, like if they were not there. I know, I know, you may say is easy to say it but not to do it. Let me give you an example:  Any individual that you know who sees you as a weak person or a person with lack of self-confidence is a challenge for us. Work close to them and work hard, so when you accomplish your goals and excel, they realize that you were not as weak or not confident in yourself as they thought you were. You will be internally rewarded and probably recognized by that person. That person may be a man or another woman.
          While is not always true, women often do not realize their value in the same way men do, and have a tendency to undercharge and limit their perceptions of what their business is capable of financially.
          Believe that you are a beautiful woman, that you are intelligent and you can accomplish a lot more things that the opposite sex, or some people from your same sex. Think that it takes a decision to start to change your behavior towards becoming successful in anything you do. Your self esteem is your closest ally. Love yourself to be able to love others. Be empathetic to others, and use your emotional intelligence to leverage relationships. Yes, there are going to be obstacles along the way. It would be too easy and we would not enjoy accomplishments if there were none. Take that obstacle and think like Dale Carnegie wrote in his book “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living and I quote “Ask yourself:  What is the worst that could happen? Prepare to accept the worst. Try to improve the worst. Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health”
          Whether your professional environment is a stay home business or a Fortune 500 or 1000, remember you are the CEO of your brain, your ideas and your creativity, and you must to put them to work. Never underestimate yourself for being a woman.
          One more idea I would like for you to take from his talk is that no matter what your profession is do is with a passion and special love. It will make your life so rewarding and worth living.
          I know Elizabeth Smith. She was Avon’s Vice President until 4 years ago when the Board of Directors of OSI Partners, Inc. (parent company of……) called her to become the company’s CEO. I was at their Christmas Party, and waiting in line behind her to go into the ballroom of the hotel, she turned around and greeted me. I was so tempted and I said, Elizabeth, how do you feel wearing such big shoes? Her answer was. You know Maria; I do not know anything about OSI. I am learning. All I know is who I am and what I can bring to the table. Needless to say that the company just went publicly traded again last year, and its revenues were about 3.5 billion dollars. I’m sure some of us if not all can be another Elizabeth.
          Thank you. Questions?   

 References:
NWHM (National Women’s History Museum (2012). Partners in winning the war. Women in World War   
             II Retrieved from http://www.nwhm.org
 Reynolds, M. (2012). Emotional intelligence in the workplace. How does working with emotional    
             intelligence. Help business leaders. Retrieved from http:/www.task.fm.com
JABE (Journal of Academics and Business Ethics (2012). Professional women. The problems working 
            women face.  Retrieved from http://www.aabri.com/jabe.html    


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